23-09-2025, 09:44 AM
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If you are a dude looking for the kind of girl you might want to marry in the future, this post will help you answer the question: is feminism going to keep you single? I have known I needed to address this topic ever since writing two posts for Covenant Eyes back in 2015, in
Is Feminism Going to Keep You Single?
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[MEN ONLY!] If you are a dude looking for the kind of girl you might want to marry in the future, this post will help you answer the question: is feminism going to keep you single? I have known I needed to address this topic ever since writing two posts for Covenant Eyes back in 2015, in which I explained six ways porn is keeping men from marriage. Why would a couple posts on porn inspire me to address feminism? Because of all the bitter, angry comments those posts received blaming the feminist movement alone for keeping men from marriage. So now I will attempt to prayerfully wade into matters of which many fear to tread (or wade), but first – two clarifications: There are many factors contributing to the problem of delayed marriage and – worse – NO marriage for 73% of Americans age 25-34 today. This post is not trying to place all the blame for this reality on feminism than my posts for Covenant Eyes were trying to place all the blame on porn. I am aware that not all feminists are alike. Some feminists (male or female) may not actually support certain beliefs I attribute to the cause of feminism, but that doesn’t negate the fact that many feminists do proudly hold to all the positions I reference below. Now to addressing whether feminism is going to keep you single. Here are four questions for you to consider. #1: Will you take advantage of the “sexual freedom” of women? Among the male species, probably the most popular feminist tenant is this: women can be just like men in pursuing sexual pleasure. While purporting to offer women “sexual freedom” (along with the help of contraception and abortion), this perspective has essentially made women “fair game” for men doing whatever they can with them sexually. As long as there is consent, of course. Even more popular with the men are the growing number of women who offer their bodies without even being asked. But the very physiology of men and women’s bodies run counter to this imagined idea of sexual sameness. For starters, men generally find that both sexual arousal and climax come far easier than it does for women. Even without any foreplay. The natural result: men are far more likely to pursue sexual contact than women. Further, without cultural or personal restraint, these innate sexual differences naturally put men in a predatory role toward women, who (again based on biology) are usually physically weaker and therefore more vulnerable to sexual assault. And, oh yeah, then there’s the physiological reality that only one gender is capable of bearing the consequences of a sexual interaction inside her body for 9 months. And so, across time and cultures, marriage has been the way a community has sought to protect women by requiring a man to commit to a woman for life before expecting that woman to give the man access to her body. (This marriage covenant then also commits the man, in advance of sexual relations, to the care and support of any children their sexual relationship may produce. Another bonus for women!) But how could the elimination of this protection keep you single? Simply this: if we don’t have to work for something we often won’t. And so as long as you are willing to take advantage of the sexual availability of the women you date the following will happen: Instead of looking for the kind of woman you want to marry, you’ll opt for the kind of woman who will “put out.” Who, in the end, will probably not be the kind of woman you want to marry. As you continue this pattern of using the women you date (lusting after, manipulating, and perhaps even abusing them), you become less capable of loving, honoring, and cherishing a woman. With each “sexual conquest” you train your sex drive to desire variety instead of the monogamy of marriage. Meanwhile, the sort of healthy, wise woman you might want to have for a wife is far less likely to have you for a husband, or even date you! And that will keep you single. So learn to take the wheel of your sex drive and learn to honor the women you date, by refusing to take advantage of their so called “sexual freedom.” #2: Will you be intimidated by women’s equality? Contrary to popular belief, women were declared “equal” to men long before the feminist movement cranked up in the ’60s. Long before the suffrage movement was launched in the 1800s. Even before the foundation of America. Or Great Britain. Or Rome. Or Egypt. It actually happened the day the first woman was created. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them. – Gen 1:27. So though physiology (and neurology) may showcase undeniable differences between men and women, Biblical theology declares that despite those differences, men and women are equal image-bearers of our God. Now that same Bible also details significant differences in spiritual roles for men and women in the church and in marriage, but never questions the equal worth of men and women before God. For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. – Galatians 3:27-28. Regardless, some Christian men use the Bible’s delineation of roles (particularly a wife’s duty to submit to her husband), to justify treating women (or at least thinking of women) as somehow less than men. However, this kind of thinking is not only unbiblical. It can keep you single. Unless, of course, you can find a “pretty young thang” who is content to be treated more or less like your pet, instead of your co-heir in Christ. But I beg you: if all you want is a pet, please content yourself with a dog or cat. They’re far easier to care for and control than a wife. Better yet, I encourage you to talk with someone who believes both in you and the true equality of men and women, to discover how your mom or dad or personal experience may have negatively influenced how you view yourself and your understanding of women. #3: Will you adopt the “us vs them” adversarial attitude of feminism? An “us vs them” perspective is unavoidable for an oppressed people group toward their oppressors. And, to be certain, women have been oppressed by our cultural norms in a multitude of ways. And in some ways they continue to be oppressed, or at least taken advantage of by men. That said, however understandable this relational pattern may be for someone who feels they have to fight to maintain equal footing with someone else, by its very nature an “us vs them” perspective will never bring people together. In fact, it often backfires (however unfair this may be to the oppressed) influencing oppressors to circle the wagons and defend their rights in the face of the demands of the oppressed. This adversarial perspective is particularly destructive in a personal relationship between a man and his wife, because it creates a “score-keeping” mentality where the responsibilities and privileges of those in the relationship are constantly measured against and compared to each other. In contrast, a healthy relationship is comprised of members who believe they’re on the same team, scoring together , as they fight a common opponent. Not fighting each other.
Article about single men for marriage:
MEN ONLY! - Future Marriage University
If you are a dude looking for the kind of girl you might want to marry in the future, this post will help you answer the question: is feminism going to keep you single? I have known I needed to address this topic ever since writing two posts for Covenant Eyes back in 2015, in
Is Feminism Going to Keep You Single?
Click here for Single men for marriage
[MEN ONLY!] If you are a dude looking for the kind of girl you might want to marry in the future, this post will help you answer the question: is feminism going to keep you single? I have known I needed to address this topic ever since writing two posts for Covenant Eyes back in 2015, in which I explained six ways porn is keeping men from marriage. Why would a couple posts on porn inspire me to address feminism? Because of all the bitter, angry comments those posts received blaming the feminist movement alone for keeping men from marriage. So now I will attempt to prayerfully wade into matters of which many fear to tread (or wade), but first – two clarifications: There are many factors contributing to the problem of delayed marriage and – worse – NO marriage for 73% of Americans age 25-34 today. This post is not trying to place all the blame for this reality on feminism than my posts for Covenant Eyes were trying to place all the blame on porn. I am aware that not all feminists are alike. Some feminists (male or female) may not actually support certain beliefs I attribute to the cause of feminism, but that doesn’t negate the fact that many feminists do proudly hold to all the positions I reference below. Now to addressing whether feminism is going to keep you single. Here are four questions for you to consider. #1: Will you take advantage of the “sexual freedom” of women? Among the male species, probably the most popular feminist tenant is this: women can be just like men in pursuing sexual pleasure. While purporting to offer women “sexual freedom” (along with the help of contraception and abortion), this perspective has essentially made women “fair game” for men doing whatever they can with them sexually. As long as there is consent, of course. Even more popular with the men are the growing number of women who offer their bodies without even being asked. But the very physiology of men and women’s bodies run counter to this imagined idea of sexual sameness. For starters, men generally find that both sexual arousal and climax come far easier than it does for women. Even without any foreplay. The natural result: men are far more likely to pursue sexual contact than women. Further, without cultural or personal restraint, these innate sexual differences naturally put men in a predatory role toward women, who (again based on biology) are usually physically weaker and therefore more vulnerable to sexual assault. And, oh yeah, then there’s the physiological reality that only one gender is capable of bearing the consequences of a sexual interaction inside her body for 9 months. And so, across time and cultures, marriage has been the way a community has sought to protect women by requiring a man to commit to a woman for life before expecting that woman to give the man access to her body. (This marriage covenant then also commits the man, in advance of sexual relations, to the care and support of any children their sexual relationship may produce. Another bonus for women!) But how could the elimination of this protection keep you single? Simply this: if we don’t have to work for something we often won’t. And so as long as you are willing to take advantage of the sexual availability of the women you date the following will happen: Instead of looking for the kind of woman you want to marry, you’ll opt for the kind of woman who will “put out.” Who, in the end, will probably not be the kind of woman you want to marry. As you continue this pattern of using the women you date (lusting after, manipulating, and perhaps even abusing them), you become less capable of loving, honoring, and cherishing a woman. With each “sexual conquest” you train your sex drive to desire variety instead of the monogamy of marriage. Meanwhile, the sort of healthy, wise woman you might want to have for a wife is far less likely to have you for a husband, or even date you! And that will keep you single. So learn to take the wheel of your sex drive and learn to honor the women you date, by refusing to take advantage of their so called “sexual freedom.” #2: Will you be intimidated by women’s equality? Contrary to popular belief, women were declared “equal” to men long before the feminist movement cranked up in the ’60s. Long before the suffrage movement was launched in the 1800s. Even before the foundation of America. Or Great Britain. Or Rome. Or Egypt. It actually happened the day the first woman was created. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them. – Gen 1:27. So though physiology (and neurology) may showcase undeniable differences between men and women, Biblical theology declares that despite those differences, men and women are equal image-bearers of our God. Now that same Bible also details significant differences in spiritual roles for men and women in the church and in marriage, but never questions the equal worth of men and women before God. For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. – Galatians 3:27-28. Regardless, some Christian men use the Bible’s delineation of roles (particularly a wife’s duty to submit to her husband), to justify treating women (or at least thinking of women) as somehow less than men. However, this kind of thinking is not only unbiblical. It can keep you single. Unless, of course, you can find a “pretty young thang” who is content to be treated more or less like your pet, instead of your co-heir in Christ. But I beg you: if all you want is a pet, please content yourself with a dog or cat. They’re far easier to care for and control than a wife. Better yet, I encourage you to talk with someone who believes both in you and the true equality of men and women, to discover how your mom or dad or personal experience may have negatively influenced how you view yourself and your understanding of women. #3: Will you adopt the “us vs them” adversarial attitude of feminism? An “us vs them” perspective is unavoidable for an oppressed people group toward their oppressors. And, to be certain, women have been oppressed by our cultural norms in a multitude of ways. And in some ways they continue to be oppressed, or at least taken advantage of by men. That said, however understandable this relational pattern may be for someone who feels they have to fight to maintain equal footing with someone else, by its very nature an “us vs them” perspective will never bring people together. In fact, it often backfires (however unfair this may be to the oppressed) influencing oppressors to circle the wagons and defend their rights in the face of the demands of the oppressed. This adversarial perspective is particularly destructive in a personal relationship between a man and his wife, because it creates a “score-keeping” mentality where the responsibilities and privileges of those in the relationship are constantly measured against and compared to each other. In contrast, a healthy relationship is comprised of members who believe they’re on the same team, scoring together , as they fight a common opponent. Not fighting each other.